Comments on: Is It Easier to be Angry at Unattractive People?

By: Automotan_Svit

Automotan_Svit — Sun, 28 Mar 2010 23:25:09 +0000

I’d be curious to see statistical data and quantitative studies about how people treat other people based on perceived attraction. Does anyone know of any studies like this?

By: Daryl Dutrow

Daryl Dutrow — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 14:13:39 +0000

I thought the article was very insightful and a great read.
Do you think what allows us to express aggression toward the less beautiful is related to social status? I think we are more hesitant to vent anger at someone with a higher social status, and people considered ugly have less status. An ugly person who was rich, professionally successful, or with a well-connected family would be much less likely to be a target.

By: website design

website design — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 11:59:19 +0000

I loved what Jimmy commented this article with, the trick is really to look within, but that comes with the possibility of familiarity.

True enough there are average looking people with more sexual appeal than great bodies with disgusting outlooks…but what appeals to the eye is beauty, how you approach it shows your mind….

There are personalities that make a princess look like a dummy with their charm,and confidence!

By: Caroline Hall-Eastman

Caroline Hall-Eastman — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 23:20:26 +0000

I am laughing and your article is good… (uggos was real creative?)

By: Evan

Evan — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 22:33:14 +0000

Chill

By: Jimmy

Jimmy — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 08:08:33 +0000

I think that starting out with the premise that there are unattractive people or ‘uggos’ as you have written undercuts the message and point you are trying to make. Ultimately, peering into ones soul and beyond their physicality does not require determination and will — it requires the dissolution of the ego.

Ironically, the title of this article is a judgment — and a relative one at that. Are there really unattractive people? What does that mean exactly? Is there some sort of unshakable truth that exists that paints a crystal clear image of the ‘perfect’ human being? I don’t think so. Beauty is nothing more than a relative perspective — one that shifts from culture to culture.

When you judge others, you don’t define them — you define yourself as someone who needs to judge.*

If you find yourself needing to judge someone ask yourself these questions: Why do I feel uncomfortable in the presence of people considered to be ‘unattractive’ by western society standards? Why is my ego requiring me to judge that person? You see, it’s not the other person forcing you to judge them — they have no idea how you feel unless you open your mouth. It’s something you feel inside. So again, the question you should ask yourself is — why do I feel this way? Is it possible that my ego is requiring a quick comparison to confirm the physical self’s place on the western society beauty scale? And by doing so — aren’t you judging yourself as well?

So, how to dissolve the ego then? It is not through will-power. The path is much more profound, meaningful and transcendent in the long run.

When we come to understand the interconnectedness of each of us, that we are indeed all one and the same, that we all spring from the same source –we come to understand that in judging others we are really judging ourselves. Love yourself fully and don’t judge yourself — and when you do you will find it harder and harder to judge others. You will find it not a matter of will-power to view each and every human on this plant as the beautiful creation that they are — rather it will come naturally as a result of dissolving the ego.

Transcend the body and connect to spirit. Therein lies the truth — and beauty

Namaste.

By: William Nzioka

William Nzioka — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 15:16:42 +0000

It seems the human inclination to point out the “flaw” in something, and you articulate that beautifully.

By: Eva woolridge

Eva woolridge — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 15:55:37 +0000

This is. A truly excellent piece of journalism, you have a talent. Entertaining, provocative, and most of all, extremely intelligent. Excellent, excellent work

By: Shira Birnbaum

Shira Birnbaum — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 23:33:07 +0000

Hey, Sarah. I enjoyed your essay a lot, and I think you are dead-on right. There are about a zillion research studies out there showing the many ways appearances matter in terms of how people get treated. But what’s also interesting is the flip side of it — ugly people’s sometimes intensely painful personal struggles to feel acknowledged and valued. I remember reading a book many years ago by a woman whose early-childhood cancer had left her with a horrifically disfigured face. The autobiography (I think it was called Autobiography of a Face, and I seem to remember the author as Lucy something-or-other. It was a best-seller at the time..) chronicled the author’s striving for a “normal” life journey — her attempts to form friendships, to have sex, to find a job. All that stuff. Might be worth a read, I think.

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